Manners of naming your Muslim childWritten by: by Yoosef ibn Abdullaah al-Arafee :: (View All Articles by: Yoosef ibn Abdullaah al-Arafee) |
List of Topics
- When to Name the Child
- Who Names the Child
- Naming a Miscarried Fetus
- Praisworthy Names
- Prohibited Names
- Disliked Names
(A) When to Name the Child:
The ahaadeeth about when the child is to be named fall into two classes:
(1) Those which mention naming the child on the seventh day after
the birth. Like the hadeeth of Samurah - radiyallaahu 'anhu - who said: Allah's
Messenger said: <Every child is held in pledge for his' Aqeeqah which
is sacrificed for him on his seventh day, and he is named on it and his head
is shaved>1
And the hadeeth that the Messenger ordered that the
child be named on the seventh day, that the harm be removed from him and
the sacrifice (the 'Aqeeqah) be performed.2
(2) And those which indicate naming the child
on the day of its birth. From these is the hadeeth of Anas-radiyallaahu 'anhu
who said: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: <A boy was born
to me this night and I have given him the name of my forefather
Ibraaheem.>3 Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) also named
'Abdullaah ibn Abee Taihah4. another baby was brought to him after
birth and he called it al-Mundhir5 and there are many examples
like this.
So from the previous ahaadeeth we can see that the time for giving the name is something flexible - and all praise and thanks are for Allah - so it may be named on the day of the birth, or delayed until the seventh day after birth - just as it is allowed between the two and later on. However, the time when it is recommended to name the child is the seventh day after the birth since that occurs in the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and so it is
taken to be a recommendation, and the ahadeeth mentioning
the day of its birth report the Prophet's action - and are, therefore, taken
to show & what is permissible.
The father and mother are the ones who are to choose
a good name for their child, but if they disagree about the name, then the
father has the right to choose the name. If he wishes, he may name it himself
and if he wishes, he may give the choice to his wife, and if he wishes he
may draw lots with her.
The fact that naming the child is the right of the
father is shown by the fact that the child in this world is ascribed and
attributed to his father. Allah - the Most High - says:
"Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers,
that is more just in the Sight of Allah." [Sooratul - Ahzaab,
Aayah:5]
They will likewise be ascribed to him on the Day of
Resurrection, and he (peace be upon him) said: <For every treacherous
one a banner will be raised saying: This is the treachery of so and so, son
of so and so.6
And the hadeeth: <On the Day of Resurrection, you
will be called by your names and your fathers names, so make your names
good.>7
It is also allowed for the parents to allow someone
else to choose the name his grandfather, or grandmother, or someone else,
i.e. that they should say: 'Call him so and so', or 'Your name is so and
so', or 'His name is so and so' etc., since our Messenger and teacher Muhammad
(peace be upon him) used to name some of the children of his Companions -
for example he named 'Abdullah ibn Abee Talhah as has preceded and he said
to a man: <Call your son 'Abdur-Rahman>8
(C) The Ruling for Naming the
Miscarried Fetus and the One who Dies before being named.
If it happens that the new-born child dies before it
is named, then it is prescribed to give the child a name in this
case9 - just as other children are named, and Funeral Prayer is
said upon him, and the rulings for the deceased apply to him. As regards
the fetus that is miscarried before the completion of six months - and that
is the earliest that life would have been possible for it10 -
then the scholars of the Shaafi'ees11 and the
Hanbalees12 hold that it is recommended to name him, and they
add that if the sex of the fetus is unclear then it should be given a name
suitable for either such as: Talhah, Rajaa, Hind and Tarafah. Their support
for the first and second questions is that the child will be called on the
Day of Resurrection by his name, and this is a good and reasonable argument
- if Allah wills.
It should also be noted that there are some ahadeeth
reported concerning the encouragement to name the miscarried fetus, however,
nothing from them is authentic - and Allah knows best.13
When the parents intend to name their beloved child
- whether male or female, then they may choose his or her name from one of
the following four classes of names:
FIRST: That the child is given a name indicating
servitude to Allah by calling him 'Abd (slave of...) followed by one of Allah
- the Most High's names, those which are confirmed for Him and the most beloved
of such names to Allah - the One free of all imperfections - are 'Abdullaah
(the slave of Allah) and 'Abdur-Rahmaan (the slave of the Most Merciful)
as shown by the hadeeth:
<The most beloved of your names to Allah - the Mighty
and Magnificent - are 'Abdullaah and
'Abdur-Rahmaan>.14
SECOND: That the Child is Named after one of the Prophets or Messengers of Allah - ('Alaihimus - Salaatu Was-Salaam)
It is said that he. said: <Call yourselves by the
names of the Prophets.>15
And he said: <You may name with my
name.>16 And we find that following this principle, he called
his own son Ibraaheem - after the name of his forefather Ibraaheem - 'Alaihimus
- Salaatu Was-Salaam -, he said: <A son was born to me this night and
I called him after my forefather Ibraaheem.>17
THIRD: Naming after the Pious People - The Companions, The Martyrs and the Scholars - both the Men and Women of Them.
Hoping that the child will grow up to love and respect
them and follow their way and adopt their manners in righteousness, knowledge
and seeking martyrdom. For this reason the noble companion az-Zubayr ibn
al-Awaam radiyallaahu 'anhu chose the names of some of the martyrs from the
Companions for his ten sons, hoping that they would become like them. So
he named one 'Abdullaah after 'Abdullaah ibn Jahsh the martyr of Uhud, and
'Urwah after 'Urwah ibn Mas'ood, and Hamzah after Hamzah ibn 'Abdul-Muttalib
- the noblest of the martyrs, and Ja'far after Ja'far ibn Abee Taalib - the
martyr of Mutah, and Mus'ab after Mus'ab ibn 'Umayr - the martyr of Uhud
radiyallaahu 'anhum ajma'een18 and what we have just mentioned
is not specific to the males - rather it is for both the males and the females.
So it is indeed praiseworthy and beneficial for the correct upbringing of
daughters that they be called after the names of the pious women and those
who participated in Jihaad from the female companions and those after them,
hoping that they will follow them in piety, chastity and manners, and from
these names are: Faatimah, Maryam, Asmaa, Sumayyah, Nusaybah, Khawlah and
others from the pious and believing women.
FOURTH: GOOD NAMES WHICH DO NOT FALL INTO THE
PREVIOUS THREE CATEGORIES
Names that are good in their wordings and meanings
carrying meanings of bravery, chastity or piety and easily pronounced,
harmonious, and suitable and befitting the person who carries the name. They
should be far from that which has been forbidden in the Sharer'ah (which
will follow) and from the examples of this type are: Hamzah, Khaalid, Anas,
Usaamah, Thaamir, Haarith, & Hammaam the last two being the most true
of names as occurs in the hadeeth19, and names like them in wording
and meaning and from the examples of these for daughters are: Saarah, Hassaanah,
Su'aad, 'Affaaf and other such names beautiful in wording and meaning.20
The prohibited names are of two categories: those which
are forbidden in the Sharee'ah and those which are either disapproved of
due to the Sharee'ah, or due to manners and good taste.
(1) Names indicating servitude to other than
Allah - the Most High such as: 'Abdun-Nabee (slave of the Prophet), 'Abdur-Rasool
(slave of the Messenger)22 and 'Abdul - Muttalib - and whatever
is like these names.
(2) Using these names which are particular names
of Allah - the One far removed from all deficiencies - like:
al-Ahad23.
(3) From the names which should also be avoided
are the names of tyrants and despots like: Fir'awn (Pharaoh), Qaaroon, Aboo
Jahl and their like, also the names of the leaders of Kufr and the heads
of atheism such as Marx, Lenin and so on.
(1) Giving names which are meant to show servitude
to Allah but using names not known to be from Allah's perfect names - like
'Abdul-Mawjood, 'Abdul-Maqsood and 'Abdus-Sattaar. This is because nothing
can be affirmed as one of Allah's names without an authentic text.
(2) From these names are those
which carry meanings of pessimism, or blameworthy characteristics which will
be disliked or cause aversion or cause the possessor of the name to feel
degraded, humiliated and such as will kill his personality - like Harb (war),
Himaar (donkey), and Kalb (dog).
(3) From good manners is
to avoid naming children with names which are suggestive or offend one's
meaning of shame - such as: Huyaam (one passionately in love), Nuhaad (A
young woman with full and raised breasts), Sahaam (summer heat)!, Wisaal
(sexual union), Ghaadah (delicate young woman), Faatin (temptress), Fitnah
(temptation), Shaadiyah (female singer) and names with similar meanings.
(4) It is also disliked
to give names which amount to a declaration of a person's being pious like:
Barrah (pious / piety) and the like - due to this meaning the Messenger of
Allah (peace be upon him) changed the name of one of his wives from Barrah
to Zaynab, as he used to hate that it be said: "He left/went out from 'Barrah'
(piety)."25 & 26
(5) From these names which it is disliked to
use for naming are the names of the Angels27- Particularly if
they are used for females - such as Malaak since it is to be feared that
this involves imitation of the pagans who gave feminine names to the
angels.
(6) Just as it is disliked to name with the
names of soorahs of the Qur'an such as: TaaHaa, Yaaseen and other names of
soorahs. This is the saying of Imaam Maalik- rahimahullaah- Ibnul- Qayyim
also said: "The saying of the common people that Yaaseen and TaaHaa are from
the names of the Prophet (peace be upon him) is not correct, there is no
'saheeh' hadeeth about it or any 'hasan' hadeeth, nor anything
'mursal'28, nor any narration from any Companion, but rather they
are letters like 'Alif Laam Meem', 'HaaMeem', 'Alif Laam Raa' and the like".
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(7) It is disliked to give names 'Yasaar' (Ease), 'Rabaah' (Profit), 'Najeeh' (Successful), 'Aflah' (Prosperous), 'Ya'laa' (Elevated)' and Barakah' (Blessing) since the Messenger (peace be upon him) forbade that30 with his saying: <Do not call your boy Yasaar, nor Rabaah, nor Najeeh, nor Aflah, since you will say: Is he there,' So it will be said: 'No'. Indeed they are four, so do not attribute more to me>31And the forbiddence of Ya'aa and Barakah occurs in another hadith.32
(G) Combining the Name and the
Kunyah of the Messenger.
Many scholars hold that there is no harm in giving the child the name of our Prophet: Muhammad and for him to take his Kunyah along with it, i.e. Abul-Qaasim. This is because they say that the forbiddence mentioned in the hadeeth: <Name with my name but do not give my Kunyah>33 was particular to his lifetime - this is the view of Imaam Maalik and the majority of the Salaf.34
Others hold that it is prohibited to join between the name of the Prophet
(peace be upon him) and his Kunyah in ones name - based upon the previous
hadeeth.
However, an evidence of the preferability of the first saying may be seen in
the hadeeth of 'Alee-radiyallaahu' anhu - who said:
"O Messenger of Allah, if a son is born to me after your death, may I give
him your name and your Kunya?" He said <Yes>35 So this clearly
shows that the prohibition was particular to his lifetime and those who say
that the allowance was only for 'Alee do not have any evidence for this.
(H) Giving Kunyah to a Small Child.
From the Sunnahs established from the beloved Messenger
(peace be upon him) is the giving of a Kunyah to small children - calling
them 'father of so and so' or 'mother of so and so' - and this strengthens
the personality of the child and enables him and causes him to realize his
worth and his importance. Together with the expression of hope which it contains,
the feeling of familiarity it produces and the protection it gives from
unbefitting nicknames. So he spoke in a good and affectionate manner with
one of the small children and called him Aboo'Umayr. Anas said: "The Prophet
(peace be upon him) was the best of people in manners, and I used to have
a brother who was addressed as Aboo'Umayr - (the narrator said: I think he
was one who had recently been weaned) and the Messenger (peace be upon him)
when he came to him would say: <O Aboo 'Umayr what has happened to the
Nughayr (Little Finch)>36 The finch was a small bird which
the child used to play with. So this hadeeth shows the manners of the Prophet
(peace be upon him) in treating this boy in an honorable and comforting way.
Just as the poet said: "I call him by his Kunyah when I call him to show
him due respect, and I do not call him by a nickname for that is
unbefitting."
(I) Manner and Regulations Relating to Giving a
Kunyah.
(1) It is permissible to give a Kunyah to a
person before they have any children as is seen from the hadeeth of Aboo'Umayr.
(2) And someone who has children takes Kunyah
after the eldest of his sons. This is what our Messenger Muhammad (peace
be upon him) did when he asked a man about his sons, so the man said: "I
have Shuraih, Maslamah and 'Abdullaah. So he said to him: <So who is the
eldest of them!> He said: "Shurayh." So he said: <Then you are Aboo
Shurayh.>"37
There is, however, no harm in taking ones Kunyah after
the youngest or middle son - but it is better and more fitting that one should
take ones Kunyah after the eldest.
(3) It is also allowed for one who has children
to take a Kunyah not connected with his children - as was the case with Aboo
Bakr, Aboo Dharr, Aboo Sulaymaan, since Aboo Bakr did not have a son called
Bakr, Aboo Dharr did not have a son called Dharr, Aboo Sulaymaan did not
have a son called Sulaymaan.
(4) It is also permissible for a man or a woman
to take their kunyah after the name of a daughter - like Abuz-Zahraa,
Aboo'Aa.ishah, Aboo Raihaanah, Aboo Ruqayyah, Aboo Arwaa, Abud-Dardaa,
Ummud-Dardaa and others from the Companions of Allah's Messenger.
(5) It is also not a condition that Kunyahs
have to be with names - they may involve attributes such as Abul-Fadl (father
of excellence), Abul-Majd (father of honor), or involve nouns - such as Aboo
Hurairah (father of the kitten), Aboo Hafs (father of a lion-cub) and Aboo
Turaab (father of dust).38
(6) It may be that the Kunyah is actually the
person's name which he is known by, i.e. that his/her name begins Aboo....
or Umm....., and this is rare.
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